relationships, Self help


My P.O.V(You’re entitled to yours).

I’ve always thought Romeo and Juliet was an awful story. Apparently, it was supposed to be tragic… Or romantic? I’m still trying to figure it out. “Romeo and Juliet” has to be one of the most cliche and poorly phrased analogies ever. I can bet my favorite pen that most of the people who use this phrase barely even know the actual story.

Now, for those of us who have read the book, some might have seen a star crossed couple who shared a love so strong that they were willing to live and die for each other. I saw two impulsive teenagers caught up in the ecstasy of infatuated love, teenagers whose reckless passion went against family, friends and eventually spiralled into delinquent behavior, ‘experimentation with drugs’, and ended in a tragedy. Whether or not the relationship between Romeo and Juliet was true love or teenage infatuation is an argument that is centuries old and will continue to be for centuries to come, but we can all safely agree that it was a disaster and I believe the same can be said for many teenage relationships these days.

Love at first sight simply doesn’t exist. A better phrase would be “lust at first sight” . While it is true that lust could later turn into love, healthy relationships shouldn’t be based on such haphazard attractions. Lust and love coexist, and emotions associated with being “in love” or “in lust” are likely to be confused, confusing and even overwhelming sometimes. While the latter tends to die off, love grows stronger;like fine wine aged over the years; the older, the better.

Young people are hormonally primed towards being attracted to others. I hardly think there is any logical explanation for this. It could be foolishness, curiosity, biology or chemistry. Teenage love may be driven by desire, infatuation, lust, and dare I say the pressure from peers to be addressed as somebody’s boyfriend or girlfriend. Simply put, some people just want to feel wanted.

Lust is purely unbridled, untamed, intense, visually based physical passion. However, as intense as it may be or feel, unlike love, lust is one hundred percent controllable. Lust based relationships barely last, and I can’t help but reference Romeo and Juliet again- maybe that’s why the play was only four days long. I can’t even begin to recount the multitude of bad choices that were made within such a short amount of time. When caught up in moments of lust, we can only rely on common sense to keep us from going over the edge and making bad choices. It is important to not let this feeling get out of control. Just because you feel it doesn’t mean you have to act on it. It is possible to let your body experience the rush of lust and at the same time tame it before you begin to explore this new found energy.

While teenage romantic relationships may provide room for psychosocial development, they many-a-time lead to unhealthy outcomes. Many teenagers have been exposed to violence and coerced sexual activity within their romantic relationships, effectively ruining their expectations for future relationships. Anybody can experience lust and make bad choices irrespective of age or experience. However, with age and maturity come more realistic expectations and hopefully more capacities to make discerning partner choices.

Maybe an Idle mind is indeed the devil’s workshop. Maybe it would be better to channel such green and intense emotions towards more productive activities.

Sadly teens these days believe love is a choice and lust – a modified impression of what they believe to be love, is a safer option. In the end, it all boils down to keeping your head in the game.

You’ve come this far, kindly leave a comment 🙂. (Feel free to share your opinions).


  1. Yup. As a matter of my personal opinion, a lot of the angst I’ve gone though could have been mitigated if as a teen I understood the difference; or even just had the time to process feelings 😄.

    Sadly a lot of adults still process feelings at a teenage/hormonal level.

    Good post 👍🏾

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    1. Exactly!!… I’m still a teen but there are things I wish I understood earlier. You’re also right,some adults still process feelings like teenagers.

      Thank you so much for reading 😊.

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  2. This is very enlightening and this is the kind of message that deserves to reach a wider audience. Many people need to hear it, both teenagers and adults alike. I really learnt a lot from reading this. Keep it up.

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  3. I really loved this. This was an amazing read. I admit I was a bit skeptical when I saw the title, but, as always, you represent. The beginning intrigued me and I was until the end. I really like your perspective on Romeo and Juliet. It’s very refreshing. Thank you so much for this. People really need to know the difference.

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